Being Married Doesn’t Mean We Have It All Together

One Imperfect Person + One Imperfect Person ≠ Perfect Marriage

By Grace K. Bianco

But there will never be a day that you have to do it all alone.

Photo by Sandy Millar on Unsplash

There’s this new belief that you have to work on yourself until your perfect for a relationship. People will leave their spouses to “work on themselves.” In some cases, this makes perfect sense. Breakups can be 100% necessary. Other times, I wonder why more couples don’t talk about growing WITH their partner. Plus, whoever really becomes perfect anyway?

This new idea also goes over into the way marriage is viewed. If my husband and I were so eager for marriage, we must have had it all together. I am here to say that could not be more wrong.

My husband and I’s first selfie together. This was taken a week and a half after we met.

My husband and I did make sure that we wanted the same things BEFORE marriage.

I was nineteen when I met my husband online. He was twenty-five. I was purposely looking for someone older. All the guys I talked to that were my age weren’t ready for the things I was. I was over it. (Plus, I am not…