I'm sorry that you have had bad experiences in the church. ): I have grown up in the church, and I did have an uncomfortable situation going on in one that my family went to for a while. (My family eventually had to leave it.) I do believe that Christians are called to fellowship and learn together in church. Paul talks a lot about the church in the New Testament. Imperfect people make up every church. So, it can take a while to find one that at least tries its best. It took my husband and I A LONG time to find and agree on a church.