It’s Impossible For Me To Be Wrong

Defensiveness in Marriage

Grace Bianco
5 min readNov 29, 2022


By Grace K. Bianco

I want to grow with my husband. This means changing in ways we never thought we would.

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When two flawed people get married, it becomes a constant journey of learning to better yourself and choosing to love despite the challenges.

At least, that is how it is supposed to go.

Some people don’t want to change their ways. Some people don’t want to fight for their love. Some people don’t want to put their partner above themselves. This can make for a much harder or even broken marriage.

Today, I am going to be open and honest about one of my own flaws in marriage, and how I am working towards bettering myself.

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It should come as no surprise that I am a very emotional person.

I am also very expressive when it comes to my emotions.

As a writer, I feel like being in tune with my emotions really helps me get certain points across. It also makes for great content haha.

Whereas being emotional in marriage has its pros and cons.

Since I am a feeler, I take things harder than someone who is more logical.

My husband is very logical. Emotions do not play a huge role in his life.

You can probably picture how our arguments go. I am a puddle of tears, and my husband sits there with his arms crossed.

He isn’t going to explain in detail what he is feeling. If he did something, he is going to apologize and be done with it.

On the other hand, I will explain what I am feeling more in depth. I am not as quick to apologize, because I want him to know what I am feeling.

This makes me come across very defensive.

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Instead of apologizing, I tell my…



Grace Bianco

I am the author of “Party Pooper: Growing up with Anxiety.” I love oversharing my life. I talk about my faith, marriage, mental health, & everything in between.