My Husband Literally Slid Into My DMs.

A Modern Gen Z/Millennial’s Online Dating Experience

Grace Bianco


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Blogmas Day 3

Four years ago today, on December 3, 2019, my husband slid into my Instagram DMs.

And the rest is history.

But how did this all come about?

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At just 19 years old, I was still trying to figure life out.

At eighteen, I had broken up with the guy that I had dated for four years.

My best friend from the past eighteen years started pulling away unexpectedly.

The sister that I had closely grown up with started going down a different life path.

On top of that, college started not feeling right for me, and I ended up dropping out.

After two months of unemployment, I finally found an amazing job as a full-time nanny.

I started writing during all of this on blogspot, and I soon began working on my first book.

I was on and off of dating apps. They sucked, and I had gone on multiple TERRIBLE first dates.

Just when I thought I was done with them for good, I got back on after my dad wouldn’t stop encouraging me to do so.

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“Just try dating apps one more time. You can just look for a friend,” my dad told a very confused, exhausted, and teary-eyed Grace one night.

What dad wants their daughter on dating apps?

I had given up on them two months before. I had accepted being single, and I decided to find my full contentment with God.

My dad’s urging made me think really hard. It was so out of character of him. I had complained to him that I was losing everyone in my life and had no idea what I was doing. The last



Grace Bianco

I am the author of “Party Pooper: Growing up with Anxiety.” I love oversharing my life. I talk about my faith, marriage, mental health, & everything in between.